Why You Shouldn't DJ Your Own Wedding

There are probably a ton of Buzzfeed articles out there about how to DJ your own wedding – and that’s great. But remember, after you read “12 Egg Tips and Tricks They Teach You in Culinary School” you aren’t any closer to becoming Gordon Ramsay. You probably aren’t catering your own wedding, so don’t DJ it either. It’s simple, there are professional DJ’s for a reason, and just because you downloaded a wedding DJ app, doesn’t mean you should have.

The rise of the iPhone DJ has created many issues for the modern-day wedding DJ and has made crowds increasingly more difficult to please. Wide access to streaming music (which DJ’s can’t use with their DJ software) gives guests the presumption that if they can play a song on their iPhone when-ever they want, well, then a DJ should be able to play any song whenever they want. But this is not always the case. The effect of this disconnect has led to increasingly demanding crowds that can be very difficult to please. It takes the expertise, and the thick skin of a seasoned DJ to know how to effectively manage a demanding crowd, and keep everyone on the dancefloor. You don’t want that responsibility, trust me. Just give your DJ the perfect request list and let them use that information to make your wedding night one you’ll never forget.

DJing my first wedding back in 2013 was honestly one of the most terrifying things I had ever done. All I could think about was ruining a couple’s special day and how if everything didn’t go perfectly that hellfire would rain down upon me in the form of the dreaded bridezilla. Fortunately, it was an incredible evening, and everyone had a great time, but the most terrifying part of the entire night was playing the music for the ceremony. All I knew, was that I do not want to be the person responsible for botching a moment someone has dreamed about their entire life. Being a professional wedding DJ, is a lot of responsibility (but of course it’s highly rewarding).

There is a ton of prep work that goes in to being a Wedding DJ. But the preparation is done over the course of years, and while your DJ will do specific work for your wedding, they have already done a lot of the prep work in their music collections by trial and error of gauging reactions to songs played for crowds. DJ’s are constantly reading a crowd, at times, they make mistakes and lose that crowd. But the true sign of a good wedding DJ is to be able to lose a crowd, and adjust to bring them back and then make them stay. We aren’t psychic, we can’t read minds, we just have a lot of experience when it comes to playing music for other people. We wouldn’t try to do your job, so don’t try to do ours.